Chris and his partner Adam have been foster carers for 6+ years and currently look after two siblings aged 12 and 13. Both work full time; Chris is a PR and Media Manager and Adam is the founder of a children’s theatre company. This LGBTQ+ Adoption and Fostering Week, Chris talks about the importance of embracing diversity as an LGBTQ+ foster carer.

So, you’re thinking of becoming a foster parent and that’s awesome. Fostering can be an incredibly rewarding experience, but its totally normal to have questions, especially if you’re part of the LGBTQ+ community.

While there are challenges that come with being an LGBTQ+ foster parent, it’s important to remember that you have just as much right to provide a loving home as anyone else.  In fact, it is illegal to discriminate against potential foster carers based on their sexual orientation. It’s remarkable to think that just a decade ago, discrimination against lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender individuals seeking to foster was legally permissible.

Over the past ten years, LGBTQ+ foster carers have made significant contributions to the lives of countless children across the UK. The landmark change in 2006 allowed both partners in an LGBTQ+ couple to be recognised as legal guardians on fostering and adoption documents. This pivotal shift has led to a steady increase in LGBTQ+ individuals stepping forward as foster carers, as the legal acknowledgment of both parents’ rights has made fostering a more viable and appealing option for couples.

The process for an LGBTQ+ couple or individual to become a foster carer should be no different to those who identify as heterosexual. It’s important to remember that the focus will be on whether or not you can provide a safe and loving home. Your sexual orientation or gender identity shouldn’t really matter. With that said, there’s always a chance you could face some extra questions or maybe even some negative comments. It’s good to be prepared for that and to have some resources on hand if you need them.

As for the children, sadly there’s always a chance they could face some bullying or teasing at school because of your family structure. It’s really important to talk openly with the children about this possibility and let them know it’s not their fault. You might want to reach out to the school beforehand to let them know about your family situation and ask for their support in creating a safe environment for the children.

While there might be some extra things to think about as an LGBTQ+ foster parent, remember that providing a loving and stable home is the most important thing. There are tons of resources out there to help you on your fostering journey and you’re not alone in this. Being a foster parent is tough, but it’s also one of the most rewarding things you’ll ever do. 

Read more about LGBTQ+ Fostering.